My 13th wedding anniversary is coming up next week and I see myself still waiting to see if things are going to get better with my husband’s side of the family. I think I may have officially have given up hope for that to happen. I am sitting here wondering where we go from here with them. Will things ever get better for my husband or the kids? I seriously doubt it. I do not care as much for me as I do for my husband and our kids. They are the ones that I feel bad for. You would … Continue reading →

We often think of school as something we complete before we have a family. But more and more often, we’re seeing husbands and wives decide to go back to school after they have one, two, or more children. They want to improve themselves or they are hoping to increase their eligibility for better employment. What are some of the things to consider when making this decision? 1. Can you afford tuition? There are many student loans and scholarships available, but what if you don’t receive a full ride, and what if the student loan payments are outside your budget? Sit … Continue reading →

Hubby is in surgery now to have his kidney removed and I was able to convince my in laws not to come. The reason I did not want them here was for a few reasons. The first is that my father in law is undergoing chemotherapy and waiting in the hospital is not a place to be for someone with a compromised immune system. If they had come and he got sick my husband would have felt incredibly guilty and he just does not need that. Selfishly I did not want them to come because we just don’t get along … Continue reading →

When we learned I was pregnant for the first time, my husband and I talked about our dreams for the future and what we wanted our family to be like. I wanted him to be involved in the raising of our children. I wasn’t interested in having a husband who read the newspaper in the corner while I did all the work—I wanted him playing with the kids, taking them places, and being a part of their lives. I didn’t want my children to just have a father—I wanted them to have a daddy. I’m delighted to say that’s exactly … Continue reading →

We all make mistakes. Some of us make a lot more than others. But this is okay, because we learn from them … or at least, we try to learn from them, right? I know I tend to run into the same brick wall a few times before I really “get it,” but then I shake it off, make a mental note, and try to do better next time. That’s what life is about—having experiences, becoming stronger because of them, and moving on. But we don’t really need to make every mistake in the book in order to learn, do … Continue reading →

Information really is power; how, what, and when to share can have a far-reaching impact on our ability to foster intimacy in our relationships. It is almost a rite of passage, for instance, for a new couple to explore one another’s past—first loves, first kisses, and even the first big heartbreak. These conversations both require and build a significant level of trust, as they reveal how we act and react at our most vulnerable moments. So what does it mean when your partner refuses to share? It can mean many things; the problem, of course, is that we often assume … Continue reading →