Celebrating Your Marriage in Your Decor

When we decorate our homes, we usually hang pictures of things we love. We buy figurines that remind us of sentimental moments. We choose colors that uplift or relax us. We surround ourselves with things that make us happy. I love walking into a home and seeing wedding pictures on the wall. I always head over and examine the dress, the flowers, the cake … I’m a wedding picture junkie. I always have been. Most of all, I love seeing how the couple continues to celebrate their union every day by bringing the memories of that moment into focus consistently. … Continue reading

Know Yourself

Before you can hope to have a great marriage and a lasting relationship, you have to know not only your partner but yourself. You have to know what things you can cope with and what will drive you up the wall. I admit, because of something that’s happened recently, not in my marriage but in a community organization I belong to, I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching, so to speak. In the process I’ve realized a few things about myself. I may not always like what I see, and I don’t at times, but I realize there are … Continue reading

Ms. or Mrs?

Some people think in this day and age the way to be correct and careful of not offending is to call all women Ms. That is the quickest way to get me off side. I’m a Mrs. and I’m proud of it. The other day I received a letter addressed to Ms and I bristled. I don’t think we should make the assumption all women prefer this term. Some of us certainly don’t. Many of my friends object to this supposedly generic term. The reality is we are married and we are proud to be married, so why all this … Continue reading

Harming Your Marriage?

Could your electric blanket be harming your marriage? Perhaps it’s not something you’ve thought about. Would you be prepared to give it up, if it was causing problems? While I’m not against modern appliances and certainly enjoy the benefits of some conveniences, like heating now there is a nip in the air here in Australia, I do wonder about electric blankets. No, we don’t have an electric blanket and have never had one. Quite simply we’ve never felt the need. I always tell people ‘I married mine.’ When we moved to the colder climate of Orange, people told us we’d … Continue reading

Is Your Marriage Sacred?

Sometimes the way that you, or your spouse views marriage can tell you a lot about whether or not it is going to last. Here is a question that you should be asking yourself and your spouse right now. Marriage certainly takes a beating in our society. There are endless jokes about nagging wives, clueless husbands and nasty mother-in-laws. Sneaking behind your spouse’s back is played for laughs, and there are now several dating sites available for those who want to have discrete affairs without their spouses finding out. Sigh. How can we really value marriage today when we are … Continue reading

Timing is Everything

‘Become the change you want to see in the world.’ That quote from Gandhi is emblazoned cross the notice board of a high school around our way. It started me thinking that it sounds like good advice for marriage too. So if you want your spouse to be more thoughtful or understanding or sensitive to your needs, then maybe you need to demonstrate those qualities toward your spouse first. I’m talking to myself, as much as any of you reading here. If you want your spouse to listen to you, then you need to show them the courtesy of listening … Continue reading

When Your Spouse’s Brain Has Been Replaced by Aliens

Have you ever thought that aliens must have snuck into your home in the middle of the night and replaced your spouse’s brain with a different one? It is not an unusual problem. Here is how to deal with it. You may be wondering, what happened to that husband who used to cook for you every night while you were dating, or the attentive wife who stared into your eyes and laughed at your every joke when you were first married. Now, the husband comes home after work and flops on the couch while you are left with figuring our … Continue reading

Helpless Husbands – Part 2

I’ve also heard women smugly say about their husbands and household chores. ‘He wouldn’t know what to do.’ Ladies, to me it’s not something to be proud of. Then there’s this one, ‘I couldn’t trust him to do it properly. So what’s the point?’ The point is maybe they’ve never let them do it. Maybe their standards are too high? Maybe they should be thankful for what he does and if it’s not up to their standard, either just accept it or go and quietly fix it or touch it up when he is not around. It’s this sort of … Continue reading

What I Love About Being Married

We see so much about the negatives and sad stories of marriages that I thought I’d tell you some of the things I love about being married. Maybe you’ll agree with some of them. I love that after all these years, I’d still rather be with him than anyone else and I know he feels the same about me. I love going to bed and curling up together at night and waking up with him still there in the morning wrapped together. When we first got married, Mick found whenever he moved over I did too, till he was balanced … Continue reading

When You Are in Love with Your Ex

I came across a very interesting scenario lately. A young woman who had been married for five years found herself in a sudden dilemma when her first love recently surfaced. While she loves her husband, she still has feelings for the ex, who was her first love. She recently began spending time with the ex and finds that her feelings aren’t going away. She is unsure what to do in her situation. So what would you do here? There are a lot of options in this situation, but unfortunately, many of them would result in danger to the marriage. Here … Continue reading