Overcoming a Fear of Commitment

Have you ever looked at a married couple and wished that you could be that lucky or maybe just that brave? It happens all the time. Believe it or not, more singles look at married couples and wonder how did those two people get there and how can they achieve that for themselves than wonder any other similar topic. More than even amassing wealth, a solid, committed relationship seems to be so far out there for some individuals that they don’t even know where to begin. If you were to ask that same couple how they got to where they … Continue reading →

When Did You Know He (or She) Was “The One”?

Do you believe in love at first sight? I believe in initial attraction, but I do not believe that real love can be based merely on sight. Still, there is something to be said for intuition, and sometimes, it just takes over. Did you know early on that your spouse was the person you wanted to marry? I’m not talking about infatuation but a deeper sense of connection and a feeling that he or she was the person you had been waiting for. Did you know right away that the two of you were meant to be together or did … Continue reading →

Relationship Rules

When it comes to relationships, we need rules and we need those rules for two reasons. The first reason, the most simple of reasons actually, is to know what to expect or to look for. The second reason, maybe not so simple, is that it’s hard to judge what a relationship should be from day to day. After all, it seems that complex and complicated relationships have become the acceptable norm. Truth be told, the individual invents the complexity in relationships. Our relationships now are no more complex than they were fifty years ago or a hundred years ago. The … Continue reading →

Nothing Says Love Like Taxes

So I was finishing up our taxes today – yes I know – thrill a minute. But I was sitting there finishing up the taxes earlier today and a memory surfaced that I hadn’t thought about in a very long time. This memory made me laugh out loud and I had to pick up the phone to call my husband to remind him of this shared memory and I got to be highly entertained by his laughter. So What’s So Funny? A long time ago in a galaxy far, far away … wait, that’s the wrong story. More than a … Continue reading →

Dating Advice? Let’s Get Real

I wanted to write more about dating, so I decided to do a little research into what is currently passing as dating advice. While there is some good stuff available, not much has changed in some areas since I was single. Much of the dating advice being offered now is all too similar to what it was back in the day and that whole “snag a guy” or “win a girl” thing, frankly turns my stomach. Women aren’t looking to “snag” or trick or trap men and men shouldn’t be looking to “win” a girl as if she is some … Continue reading →

Tips to Lure Your Mate

I can hardly believe that I am writing this particular blog, but the information is the kind that you either read in a teen magazine designed to teach girls how to set their caps for boys or on a single’s site where you might look for key tips on catching a mate. With that in mind, I wanted to take a more romantic look at the basic biology and chemistry that exists between two people. The Body Language of Seduction According to anthropologist David Givens in his new book Love Signals, we must lure our mates because they are a … Continue reading →

Dating: Give the Benefit of the Doubt

This article is based on advice I recently gave my teenage daughter, but I think it applies equally well to adults. In fact, I try to give my girls mature advice or suggestions. There are many different situations in which this recommendation applies. In my opinion, it is generally a good idea to give people the benefit of the doubt. This is true to the degree that the person has not given you reason for distrust. In other words, if you’ve had no reason to be suspicious previously, don’t automatically start now. For example, if you hear a rumor, check … Continue reading →

Single Doesn’t Have to Mean Lonely

It’s hard to be alone, but there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Alone can be a good thing, at least sometimes, but lonely is another story. It can be depressing and difficult to see ahead to a future where you won’t always feel that way. It’s a vicious circle really, because the lonelier one feels, the needier he or she tends to become, and neediness is not very attractive. The first thing to do is to make sure you include other people in your life and stay active, even if it means spending time with people … Continue reading →

Would You Date a Proven Liar?

I’m not going to mention the name of the show, although some of you will likely know the one I’m talking about. I don’t want to name it or link to it, because it doesn’t fit our “rated PG” preferences here. In fact, I ended up turning it off due to the graphic language and content, but I did learn something from the parts I did watch. The show has a person meet with two other people, potential dates, and ask them several questions. What they don’t know is that their responses are being recorded and processed with a lie … Continue reading →

Dating: Staying Together for the Holidays

Breaking up with someone before or during the holidays is difficult, but is staying together worth it? While some people will make ugly claims that one of the people in the pair just wants extra gifts, there’s much more to sticking it out when the relationship isn’t working. There is the psychological aspect, the loneliness, going to holiday parties alone, and many other issues that play a role in making this kind of decision. There are a few questions that should be answered in deciding if it is a good idea: Is it Mutual? Both parties must agree to such … Continue reading →