Marriage May Not Be What You Think It Will Be

The sad part is, marriage is almost never what you think it will be. Couples fall in love for different reasons and they get married for different reasons and if you asked 100 different couples what they thought their marriage would be like, chances are they would tell you I don’t know what I thought it would be like exactly, but I didn’t think it would be like this. Married Couples Spend As Much Time Apart As Together People think that when you get married, you spend all of your free time with your spouse. You may even do that … Continue reading →

How to …. Compromise

Compromise is difficult at the best of times and when you add passion, love and strong-minds to the mix then you may discover that compromise falls into the pretty words category. From our first steps to our mornings in Kindergarten to growing up, we’re required to compromise or lose out on friends, social events and in some cases even grades. Guide to Compromise As a parent now, I know I am talking to my daughter all the time about compromising all the time and that there are a few things that I am always saying to her. I can’t think … Continue reading →

It Might just be the Newlywed Blues

Now that the honeymoon is over and life has turned into a steadier routine, you may find that you or your spouse is feeling a little “let down.” Maybe both of you are experiencing it. Once all the excitement of the wedding and honeymoon trip has passed and life begins to settle down, many spouses begin to feel a bit depressed. It’s similar to how many people feel after Christmas is over. After weeks or months of build up, the planning, the preparations, the thrill of it all seems to be over too quickly. Most people are able to adjust … Continue reading →

How’s Married Life Treating You?

Many people will ask how married life is treating you shortly after the wedding. You may find that you don’t know how to respond. You’re probably experiencing both positive and negative emotions, so the answer may be complicated. Marriage is a life-changing event, and good events as well as bad can create a certain amount of stress. Both types of events also require adjustment. You would have many similar feelings if you had recently started a new business. Doing so is a positive thing, but any type of partnership requires time to settle in, agree on ground rules, and make … Continue reading →

Three Misconceptions that Can Affect Your Marriage

There are many misconceptions that people embrace, especially when it comes to marriage, especially new marriages. It’s easy to get caught up in thinking things should automatically be a certain way when two people are in love. It doesn’t always work like that. Here are three misconceptions that can have an impact on your marriage: Love Conquers All Love can do a lot of things, and it even has some healing properties, but love does not conquer all. Things can happen that will come between even the most loving couples. The fact that two people love each other isn’t always … Continue reading →

Respecting Each Other’s Views

Clearly, you and your spouse are not going to agree on everything. You may even be rather shocked at times to learn how your husband or wife feels about a particular issue. If it is something the two of you have never really discussed, you may have assumed that he or she felt the same way you do concerning the matter. This happens often in new relationships, because you simply cannot discuss every issue known to man. However, it does help to talk about those issues that are very important to you before getting deeply involved, and especially before getting … Continue reading →

Is the Honeymoon Over?

There comes a point in most relationships that forces us to take pause. It is the moment when one comes to the realization that their relationship is not perfect. No, most do not enter into a marriage expecting perfection but let’s face it, the beginning of a relationship is full of excitement and passion and butterflies in your stomach. Once you and your partner begin to settle in to your daily routines and life begins to present challenges or obstacles each partner begins to see the other in a different light. In most cases one would hope that through these … Continue reading →

10 Things You Find In a Happy Marriage

When it comes to a happy marriage, we all want one and we all want to find the secret ingredient, the secret steps, and the secret to making our marriage a happy one. There are many times that we describe our marriages like a garden. We use this analogy because we know that if we don’t tend to our gardens, they will not wither and die. They will become overrun with weeds and they will not be what we want them to be. So we know what we’re looking for in a well-tended garden, but do we know what we’re … Continue reading →

50% of Marriages Do Not End in Divorce

I thought that headline might get your attention. Far too often we focus on the negative report of statistics that indicate relationships won’t succeed and that marriages end in divorce. I remember when I was growing up; I would wonder why people bothered to get married. I remember watching some wedding ceremony on a soap opera and finding it rather boring. Why boring? Because on a soap opera there really is no such thing as happily ever after and a couple may get married but they will likely divorce in a year or two and that divorce will either be … Continue reading →

Relationships are a Two-Person Thing

When two people meet, enjoy each other’s company and find themselves in what we call a relationship there will inevitably come a time when one or both of the couple feel like something is missing. This is as natural to the evolution of relationships as the first date, the first kiss, the first fight and the first make-up. While counseling might be the politically correct way to handle issues that seem beyond a person, the first stop in relationship counseling is to take care of yourself. Relationships are a two-person thing. No person can tell another what is best for … Continue reading →