The Huffington Post published an article interviewing a lawyer who says that it’s possible to sue your husband’s mistress. The charge is alienation of affection and the punishment can be a hefty sum of money. Focus on Who Hurt You This brings me to think about whether this should be in place. I can see why a scorned wife wants to sue the mistress. Many mistresses are conniving and will do whatever it takes to get the man they want. Sometimes, it’s easier to blame someone else for your husband’s affair than him especially when trying to find out why … Continue reading →

You’re spouse cheated on you and now he says he wants to repair the damage he’s done to the marriage. This doesn’t make much sense to you but you’re willing to give it a try for the sake of your family. Understanding how to save your marriage after an affair is crucial to your recovery from infidelity. Step #1: Grieve the Loss of Your Old Marriage Your marriage before the affair has died. Just like mourning the death of a loved one, you must grieve the passing of a marriage you once knew and loved. Trying to sweep the affair … Continue reading →

When a spouse cheats, your emotions run wild. Not only do you go through every emotion imaginable but you can experience them all at the same time. It’s enough to drive you insane. Understanding the emotions that come with infidelity can help you with the recovery process. Your emotions are normal, must be felt and processed and knowing how to do this is imperative to your healing. Infidelity Emotion #1: Rage Rage is more than anger; it’s an emotion that can send you into a flight of forbidden words you never thought you would say. It may make you do … Continue reading →

Many marriages, but not all, experience infidelity at one time or another, either through the wife’s actions, the husband’s, or even possibly both. It can be overcome, but not accidentally, not by chance, not by wishing for it. The partner who cheated must feel true regret for what happened and make a sincere, solid decision that it will never happen again. They must break all ties with the person they cheated with, and never interact with them in any way again—otherwise, not only will the temptation be too great, but they will be reminded of the affair every time they … Continue reading →

Recently while watching a TV show one of the characters admitted they had had a one night stand with someone else during a time when the husband was being distant, selfish and unresponsive. There was no plan to take the one night stand further. It was in the past but the person thought they should admit it to their husband. The result was he, understandably, chucked an absolute fit. Okay so it’s just a TV show. But often TV shows reflect life. It started a discussion between Mick and I about whether the character should have told, knowing how this … Continue reading →

Adultery isn’t what kills a marriage. It is just a symptom. I read this idea recently in a novel and thought there is a lot of truth to this statement. The novel was Every Secret Thing by Laura Lippmann. But let’s examine that statement. What sort of things contribute to a spouse having an affair? The first thing that springs to my mind is that they are not getting what they want in the marriage relationship. It may be they are being neglected by their spouse. This can come about through busyness with work, family or even other activities like … Continue reading →

Often spouses ask other people, such as their best buddies what constitutes cheating. They may google the phrase, “What is cheating,” or look to experts to answer the question. They may even wonder to themselves if a thought or an action is considered cheating. Wait, check the Bible or the latest self help book. For example, if I kiss someone other than my husband on the lips is it cheating? What if the kiss is on the cheek, or if the lip kiss is to a best friend or aging relative? Is it cheating if I share secrets with someone … Continue reading →

If you or your spouse are showing the signs of emotional infidelity then you need to get help, fast! Emotional infidelity can be devastating to a marriage, and in many cases, it will lead to physical infidelity as well. Here are some signs that there may be emotional infidelity going on in your relationship. There is more interest in spending time with someone other than your spouse. If you look forward to spending time elsewhere, even if that time is only spent through email or on the phone, then this may be a sign of emotional infidelity. Spending an unusual … Continue reading →