Are You to Blame for Your Spouse’s Affair?

If your spouse has an affair with someone else, should you take some of the blame? One issue that I see coming up in the forums often enough to be a concern is the subject of having a spouse who cheats. In many of the posts, the spouse who is being cheated on wants t figure out what he or she did wrong in the relationship to cause the cheating. There are many things in a married relationship that can lead to cheating. Often women cheat because they are feeling neglected or unloved. Men tend to cheat to increase their … Continue reading →

Is There a Seven-Year Itch?

There has been a lot of debate by experts and non experts alike over whether or not there is such as thing as the seven-year itch, in which married people are likely to pursue an extra-marital affair and infidelity. Numerous studies have been done about this phenomena. Here is what people are saying. Being stuck in a rut can lead to the seven year itch. A study in India checked with couples at different years of their marriages. They found the biggest decline in marital satisfaction from couples who expressed concern about being stuck in a rut several years earlier. … Continue reading →

One Sign Your Husband May Be Cheating

Some wives seem to know right from the start that their husbands are cheating, while others say that they never suspected a thing. Here is one sign that generally means that you husband may be cheating. While some people are naturally more suspicious than others by nature, husbands who cheat generally start accusing their wives of cheating. If your husband suddenly starts accusing you of cheating, wants to know where you are every moment of the day, makes accusations about your loyalty and fidelity or is generally overcome with jealousy that is unwarranted, it may be because he is himself … Continue reading →

Reasons to Give Your Spouse a Second Chance

Whether it is a matter of sexual infidelity or just forgetting your birthday, here are some reasons why you should just let it go and give your spouse a second chance. Good basic character If you spouse is basically a decent person with a good character then it usually means that a second chance would be rewarded. Has your spouse showed you time and time again that he or she has a commitment to you and the relationship? Did you trust your spouse before the current issue? Does your spouse generally care about others and usually does the right thing? … Continue reading →

What Do Men and Women Look for in an Affair?

If you want to protect your marriage from outside affairs, it might be helpful to understand what men and women look for when it comes to an affair. Usually (although not always!) there is something lacking in a relationship that prompts an affair. Affairs can be complicated things, so I don’t want to suggest that things are black and white or that any of these reasons justify having an affair. But numerous studies have suggested that men and women generally are looking for different things, depending on gender, when they are ready to become involved in an affair. I don’t … Continue reading →

What is an Affair?

We all know the definition of an affair, don’t we? But wait! Go ahead and try to define it and it may not be so black and white. Behavior that might be seen as an affair by one couple or even one individual may not been seen as an affair by your own definition or vice versa. For example, is an affair when a spouse engages in sexual intercourse with another person outside of the marriage? Sure, okay, but what about if there is no intercourse, but there is kissing? Does a quick peck on the lips count? How about … Continue reading →

Christie Brinkley’s Ex-Husband’s Infidelity Confession

The Barbara Walters interview with Peter Cook, Christie Brinkley’s ex-husband, has stirred up all sorts of controversy between the couple (she filed an order with the court to make sure he doesn’t let their children see it when they’re in his custody), but it’s also riled the public. The controversy is similar to the one that brewed during Oprah’s “Why Men Cheat” series. Cook’s Confession Cook claims Brinkley’s lack of attention drove him into the arms of his 17-year-old lover. I can understand why he strayed. I believe lack of attention is a factor in why men stray. But I … Continue reading →

Is It Possible to Affair-Proof a Marriage?

On Oprah’s “Why Men Cheat Part 2” show, M. Gary Neuman offered three ways to affair-proof a marriage: 1. Appreciate your spouse more. In fact, make sure to appreciate your spouse as much as you possibly can. 2. Have sex. Make time for sex. Enjoy sex. (He suggested women are bad about receiving pleasure. Men are better at that. By nature they’re takers and we’re givers. We’re not comfortable receiving. Be it sexual pleasure or tokens of affection. Mr. Neuman said instead of saying “You shouldn’t have” when your husband gives you something, you should say, “Yes you should have … Continue reading →

Oprah’s “Why Men Cheat” Controversy

Last week Oprah did a show called “How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: Why Men Cheat Part 2.” I don’t know if she had the “Part 2” planned or not. From the previews it kind of sounded like they did it in response to all of the responses Part 1 generated. It was the previews that caught my attention. Since I wasn’t going to be able to watch the show when it aired, I recorded it. Saturday while Wayne and I were hanging out to nurse Murph, he was flipping through our recorded programs on the DVR and saw the Oprah … Continue reading →