Relieving Stress – Part 3

This is the last of my articles about relieving stress. Some of these ideas really go together. The first is volunteering. Volunteer to help someone else, someone less fortunate. The community is always looking for people to visit nursing homes and people who have no regular visits from family, drive them to shopping and doctors and other chores, provide meals for those unable to do it themselves, read to the elderly or blind, baby sit or care for children of busy moms so they can have a break, help those with caring for the sick or disabled, help with reading … Continue reading →

More Ways for Relieving Stress

Following on from yesterday’s post, here are more ways to relieve stress. Obviously a lot will depend on your own personality. For example some people might suggest massage as the ultimate in relaxation and relieving stress. To me, there is nothing relaxing about having another person massaging me, unless that person is Mick of course, or sometimes when our daughter was living at home, she gave me a massage, particularly when my neck and shoulder were really bad. But as for going to a masseur, it would never happen in my lifetime but I know others who love it. So … Continue reading →

Relieving Stress

Sometimes what you need in a marriage is to relieve the stress. Stress can be caused by illness and health concerns, financial worries, family issues, work situations or whatever they may be. Today I felt very much in need of stress relief. Quite simply I hate seeing Mick sick. This morning I needed to get out of the house for a little while and take out my frustration on a few tennis balls. It makes a lot of sense when stress builds up for whatever reason to find a way of dealing with it so it does not affect your … Continue reading →

Depression- part 2

Yesterday we looked at dealing with depression and what you can do if your spouse is suffering from depression. Here are some more thoughts on the subject. Don’t be afraid to get professional help. Too often people can be embarrassed or made to feel they should be able to deal with things. This is especially true in Christian circles. There seems to be an idea that Christians should never suffer depression because they are Christian. That is not recognizing that depression is a medical condition, an illness that needs treating. So find a psychologist who can help you. If you … Continue reading →

Dealing with Depression

Depression is a serious problem in society. It is the most common of all metal health problems, yet it is one that is not talked about nearly as often as it should be. Statistics tell us one in five people will suffer from depression at some stage in their lives. You or your spouse or someone in your family could be a likely candidate for depression. So what can you do if your spouse or someone in your family suffers from depression? Firstly, you and your spouse or the person who has depression need to realize that depression in an … Continue reading →

Is Your House Killing Your Marriage?

Is where you live making life more difficult for your marriage? That’s something that occurred to me and obviously to others too like architect Michelle McSharry.In the article yesterday about Australian Fathers, Michelle McSharry suggested two factors are making life harder for couples. One is the size of homes and gardens which is contributing to a high housework load. It’s an interesting fact of modern society that houses are getting larger while the size of families in them is shrinking. Most houses no longer include grandparents or extended family as they once did. It is usually only the husband, wife … Continue reading →

How to Deal with Stress

Stress is something that comes to all of us at varying times and in varying ways in our marriage. It can have detrimental effects, producing headaches, depression, overeating, high blood pressure, stomach upsets and constant minor illnesses because the immune system is low. From all the symptoms a young man experienced, he thought he was having a heart attack. The hospital found he was having a panic attack caused by too much stress. So for our health and for the sake of our marriages let’s find ways to deal with the stress. I’ve been reading Always Looking Up by Michael … Continue reading →

It Shouldn’t Be This Hard

Even when you love someone, it isn’t always easy to know the right thing to do. Sometimes no matter how much you love them it’s hard to know when love, support and sympathy are quite simply too much. It’s hard to know when love and concern crosses over into interference and hovering over our spouse or other family members. Sometimes it’s a matter of timing. We want to rush in and act and show our support but in the process don’t give the one we love enough space and time to process things themselves before expecting them to share the … Continue reading →

Don’t Let Chronic Illness Harm Your Marriage

There is a very interesting article in the September issue of More Magazine that talks about how marriages change once chronic illness enters the picture. According to the story, couples who consist of at least one spouse with a chronic illness have a divorce rate of 75%! And other couples who stay together say that they are only still married because of the insurance. This is some pretty scary information. So how can you prevent a chronic illness from taking down your marriage? The couples that do stay together and are happy may have a few secrets up their sleeves. … Continue reading →

Problems in the Bedroom?

One thing occurs in the bedroom that can cause lots of problems for married couples. Millions of people are, or have been at some time, affected by this problem. No, I’m not talking about sex problems but snoring. Snoring can create a lot of problems in a marriage. The reality is one person snores and the other person ends up being kept awake. More often that not, the snorer is the male, but certainly not always. This results in the person who is kept awake, becoming crabby, resentful and unable to function properly during the day. It becomes a source … Continue reading →