I believe I mentioned how when my oldest son broke his hand last October that no one in my husband’s family called to talk to him. We talked to the extended family and told them how upset he was that no one from that side of the family called him to check on him. Not one time during the 8 weeks that he was in a cast did his grandparents, aunt or uncle on my husband’s side called him to check on him. They all said they did not think it was important to call and check on him and … Continue reading →

My husband and I have to make some hard decisions very soon. We are going to ask a few questions of our in laws. We already asked it of my sister in law and she refuses to answer. The question is straight and to the point. “Given the fact that we will not participate in a family Christmas get together again because of how the kids and us felt uncomfortable. Where do they see the relationship between our family and them?” It seems pretty straight forward I think but it will be a hard question. If they say that they … Continue reading →

Well we made it through a few hours with my in laws and there was no blood or tears shed. When we got in the car and were driving home we asked the kids how they felt that the day went. The car was quiet. If you know our kids you would know that it is not very common for them all to be quiet at the same time. We knew what was going on that the kids did not want to say anything that may hurt my husband’s feelings. My husband was nice and spoke up telling the kids … Continue reading →

The kid were excited that we were going to the in laws but they were a bit nervous too which we totally get. We were nervous too especially we know how hard conversations have been and sitting together may be even harder. We need to have a hard conversation with my mother and father in law and it is coming soon. We need to know if they plan on having a relationship with our family going forward. Being told that they are too busy to see their son and his family before February is ridiculous but this is where we … Continue reading →

If you have been reading my marriage blog you know about my in law drama. There are a couple of new developments. In case you have not read my entries before let me give you a quick 411. We have a very strained relationship with my in laws and they tend to not really want to do anything with our family or our kids. Last Christmas season we tried to set a date with my mother and father in law to do a gift exchange and just spend some time with them. My mother in law said that she had … Continue reading →

Well this does not happen too often, but I was wrong they did not do my mother-in-law’s birthday last weekend like I thought they would. They called to do it this coming Saturday, normally that would be great but there are a couple of things wrong. First my daughter Rebecca is now doing cheering for the local YMCA and has her first game on Saturday and we cannot be in two places at once. The second reason is that we still have had no contact with my brother or sister-in-law. The last time they spoke to anyone in our family … Continue reading →

Every year on the weekend before Martin Luther King Jr. Day my three kids go to a weekend camp that the Epilepsy Foundation puts on where epilepsy kids and their siblings can go for a weekend of fun. It is a weekend that the kids look forward to every year and actually start asking about it around Halloween. They are psyched and honestly so are we it is a weekend with no kids! Plus it is a weekend when we do not have to worry about the kids getting hurt or having a seizure, the camp comes with pediatric neurologist … Continue reading →

Well it is New Years and hubby called the parents to wish them a Happy New Year. Originally we were supposed to get together with them the week after Christmas; that is if we had agreed to do the family thing which as we know we did not. We had a feeling that his Dad was not going to be feeling well and that is totally fine I knew that and it is legitimate. Still no calls to the kids or my husband to see how Christmas was or what they got from Santa. The kids have officially stopped asking … Continue reading →

Well the holidays are officially over and the in law story has not changed. My husband called his parents on Christmas morning and they were doing Christmas morning things. He told them when we should be home and for them to call later when they were free. Much to our surprise not they did not call. OK I am not a grandparent but I hope to be one someday and I cannot even imagine not calling my grandkids on Christmas. We figure maybe they got busy so the next day my husband called and they heard the kids in the … Continue reading →

Well we contacted my sister in law this week to give her one more chance to get together and do a gift exchange among the cousins who are ages 4,9, 10 & 12. Her reply is what we expected it was a big fat NO. Well actually she said if we agree to do it the way that she wants it with her parents then yes she will but other than that NO. Ok so why should we have to conform to what they want and force our kids to do Christmas with everyone and not just the grandparents? I … Continue reading →