So we are not going to have any involvement with the in laws during the month of December and actually I am feeling great about it. Maybe I should not be but to be honest I am absolutely ok with it. I am ready for our kids and husband and to have a relaxing holiday season. We are going to do try to make the weekends super packed with holiday things and hopefully it will make it a bit easier. I am not sure if my mother in law is even going to call our kids for Christmas. I say … Continue reading →

So we are not spending any part of the holiday season with my in laws. Not by our choice but theirs and so we are going to try to do things to keep the kids busy every weekend so hopefully they won’t really notice too much. The reality is they don’t spend time with them any other time of the year so the Christmas season should not be much of a change for them. Before my in laws had a biological grandchild they would pick up our kids and take them to look at Christmas lights and have dinner. That … Continue reading →

So my husband’s family has decided to cut us out of their Christmas celebrations and I am madder than mad. I am not mad for me but I am for my husband and my kids. My father in law is sick with cancer and now my husband and kids are not being allowed to spend time with him. I am so angry with it is not funny. We had our daughter’s birthday party this past weekend and told his brother and sister that they are not invited to the party. I do not think they should be allowed to pick … Continue reading →

My sister in law is trying to plan an outing to celebrate their Dad’s birthday and his completion of chemotherapy. Finishing chemotherapy is definitely something that should be celebrated but there are something’s that no one is considering. The first being that he will only be complete in his chemo for 2 weeks; having gone through chemo I know he is still going to be low on energy, appetite and may still be nauseas. When we tried to nicely explain this to my sister in law her reply was “Yeah I know”. Well considering between me and her there is … Continue reading →

Every year my husband’s parents host a birthday dinner for my brother in law and sister in law but never for my husband. This bothers me. My husband says he does not let him be bothered by this but he is human so it is only natural that it does bother him. This year we chose not to attend his sister’s birthday dinner because of some issues we had going on at the time and my mother in law choose to call my husband at work and chew him out for not going. Now let me say my husband did … Continue reading →

I was driving home from the hospital with the kids after we visited with my husband and I mentioned that their grandmother came to the hospital to visit to see their Dad. The kids asked me why they did not visit with their Grand Parents. Now this is a hard question for me to answer. I know what the reason is but I do not want them to have any negative thoughts about them. Now contrary to everyone’s opinion we never speak ill of the grand parents or other in laws at all. I will not lie to the kids … Continue reading →

Well surgery is over and before my husband was even rolled to recovery my brother in law got up and was gone. So he got there after surgery started and left before he woke up from surgery so what was the purpose of him being there? He did not talk to me really so why exactly did he come? When my husband was in the hospital recovering his one remaining kidney started to go into shock and so they kept him in the hospital for 2 full weeks. My sister in law came by for a few visits and called … Continue reading →

When my children were younger, my husband did a great job spending time with them and enjoying them. One thing I have noticed over the years is that as our children have gotten older, it has become more difficult for him in knowing how to interact. Now I don’t say this to put him down. From what I have heard, it’s a common problem for many fathers. When the kids are younger, it’s nothing to get on the floor and roughhouse. It’s even okay to sit down with your daughter and play tea party. But then along come the years … Continue reading →

Well back to the family drama. My husband is in the hospital and soon they will be removing a kidney that died from his diabetes. Now he got the diabetes from his mom she is a diabetic and he developed as a teenager. When my husband got cancer I heard that he got it because I asked him to get a vasectomy. So hubby’s cancer is my fault? Would that kidney being removed at the ripe old age of 39 her fault? No don’t worry I am not going to tell them that because the vasectomy did not cause cancer … Continue reading →

So I just had surgery on my foot and I am supposed to be staying off of it and now all of a sudden my sister in law wants to bring dinner over. I feel like I am in some sort of alternate universe or the pain meds are really doing something weird. I know they may make me nice but should they be making her nicer? I know that sounds mean but when we have had so many issues throughout the years and we have had little to no support from her. Even when I was going through chemo … Continue reading →