Is Alzheimer’s a Reason to Get Divorced?

To the shock of many (myself included), last week televangelist Pat Robertson (of “The 700 Club”) made a shocking statement. He was asked about a man who started seeing another woman after his wife had developed Alzheimer’s. Robertson’s response was that it’s okay to get divorced and start all over again. There are two reasons this doesn’t sit well with many people. The first is that Pat Robertson is a Christian, so you would assume that he believes in and follows the scriptures, which clearly indicate that God hates divorce. The second is that out the window go the vows … Continue reading →

Come on Really!

Shouldn’t family be there for you no matter what? This is a question that I find myself asking as I sit in my husband’s hospital room. His family only calls or comes around when he is sick; now that does not make any sense to me. Shouldn’t family be there whether you are sick or not? Should brothers and sisters only call when you are in the hospital? Should they only be able to find time to visit when you are in the hospital? When he is in the hospital they find time to spend with him any other time … Continue reading →

We Cant Make All Outings Sorry

I want to move far away from Texas! Not because I do not like the state because it is great; a little hot right now but I still like it. I want to move because the farther we move from the in-laws the easier my life will be. I know that sounds mean but at least if we lived far away I would have an answer to tell the kids why they never see my husband’s family other than on holidays. The kids are starting to not expect to see the grandparents on that side or the Aunts, Uncles and … Continue reading →

We Got Ambushed

My husband and I have been called for a dinner at his parents’ house; this is odd as we only get invites to birthdays etc. and there is no birthday that we know of. We agree to go because we want to work towards peace in the family. Our time out is over and we still want to talk about things with them that still bother us so this seemed like a great chance to do that. We pull up to his parents’ home and notice that his brother and sisters cars are both in front of the house so … Continue reading →

Why Dont They Get To Know Our Kids?

I am having a real hard time deciding what the right thing to do when it comes to dealing with my in-laws. I have read books, searched the internet looking for help. We have tried everything at least I think we did. Today I am sitting here thinking about the relationship with my in-laws and our kids. Is life today so busy that no one has time to get to know our kids? Have times changed that much that everyone is so busy that they don’t have time for family? While I was growing up we were always doing things … Continue reading →

Medical Issues Come up

During our 90 time-out period we had no contact with any of my husband’s family. It was actually quite peaceful we had no family drama. We were almost through our 90 day time out my father in law had a heart attack. Even though our time out was not over we went to the hospital because that is what family does. During the time when we were at the hospital his family acted like there was nothing wrong, that we had not been sent to time out. I personally was rather uncomfortable because I knew there were issue and you … Continue reading →

Do you Ignore Hurt Feelings?

A few months have passed since we tried to talk with the in-laws about the issues that we have had over the last year and a half. They still did not want to talk about it, they seriously think that if you ignore it they will go away. When we try to bring the issues up they say that I am just trying to stir the pot and rehash old issues. Yes the issues did not happen yesterday but when someone intentionally calls you by your husband’s ex-wife’s names, by saying they can’t come to our wedding because they don’t … Continue reading →

If You Ignore a Problem Will It Go Away?

When you have in-laws that don’t really like you it makes it really difficult to attend family functions. While I was growing up we had always been taught that if something is bothering you or if you have a problem with a person you should try to talk it out. Unfortunately for me my new in-laws did not agree with this logic. They would much rather lift a rug and push any problems under it before they would talk about it. When we were done with the holidays we decided we would try to clear the air with them and … Continue reading →

Quiet at Last

The fact that we did not go back to the in-laws house on Christmas Day or stay there overnight on Christmas Eve did not go over well with the extended family. My husband’s family is very set in their ways and they do not want to change for me, that is abundantly clear to me. We survived our first holiday season as a married couple with only a few hurt feelings so that was a slight improvement over our first Christmas. This is my husband’s second marriage; his first lasted for five years. I was curious if his family treated … Continue reading →

Christmas With the In-Laws

So we did Thanksgiving our way I agreed to give a little on Thanksgiving, it was just the two of us so we agreed to go over on Christmas Eve. This was huge for me after how horrible the first Christmas with his family I really was not looking forward to it. I did agree to go to try to keep peace I do think back now and wish I had not. My mother – in-law loved hosting the holidays; she had done this since her kids were little and she was going to continue until she is no longer … Continue reading →