A Unique Story to Share

The death of a close friend would have to be a terrible thing to experience. Likewise, the death of a spouse would also have to be a terrible experience. Therefore I am not writing to judge anyone. However I recently heard about an awkward or perhaps just interesting situation that I wanted to share with you. It seems that school age best friends grew up together, went off to college together, and even got a job at the same place. These two ladies were tight. They double dated and spent much time at one another’s homes. As time passed one … Continue reading →

Guilty Until Proven Innocent: A Husband’s Issue with Blame

Once upon a time I wrote an article called Flaws: Sometimes It’s the Imperfections that are the Most Endearing. Sometimes they’re not. I know I have a lot of quirks that drive Wayne bananas. I blow my nose way too loud. (I’ll admit, sometimes even more obnoxiously than usual. Depends on if I’m in the mood to torment Wayne or not.) I’m very slow. (Sometimes mentally, almost always physically. I don’t like to rush. I like to take my time gathering things, be they my thoughts, my glasses, my coat…) Wayne’s got some quirks too. His tendency to say, “Whatever” … Continue reading →

Witness to a Marriage Miracle

If you are the product of a divorce like me, did you ever dream of your parents getting back together? I never had that fantasy. I just sort of accepted the situation for what it was and dealt with the new circumstances. However, I did wish my parents could at least talk to each other. For the first few months after the split they did. Sort of. My dad would come get me at my mom’s house for his weekend visitations. Things were always tense between my parents, but then things just got downright nasty. TNT I don’t know what … Continue reading →

What Have I Done to My Marriage? – Part Three, Salvation Strategies

Yesterday I wrote what turned into Parts One and Two of the “What Have I Done to My Marriage” mini-series. Where I left off in the saga was how Wayne and I weren’t even on speaking terms this past weekend. In our years together we’ve had our moments of silent treatments, but they usually remain just that –moments. Saturday morning we went a few hours giving each other the silent treatment, and then again that night and into Sunday morning. That’s highly unusual. Fear and Doubt Sets In Sunday morning I woke up frantic, unable to push the following thoughts … Continue reading →

What Have I Done to My Marriage? – Part Two, The Meltdown

In a previous article I wrote about some behind-the-scenes drama I’ve been enduring with the big changes in my marriage. Drama that could have threatened it even this early on in our new arrangement–-if I’d let it. I’ll get to the part about the salvation strategies I employed in another article, but first I’ll give you an idea of why I needed to call on them at all. Honeymoon’s Over Today marks a week and a half since my mom and I returned home. (Well, to my existing home and what is becoming her new one.) The first few days … Continue reading →

What Have I Done to My Marriage?

If you’re a regular reader you’re aware of the big changes that have taken place in my marriage recently. What I haven’t shared yet is all the behind the scenes drama I’ve been enduring. 10 Secrets to Success and Inner Peace I don’t really want to go into too much detail about it all. I’m trying to avoid thoughts that weaken me. (That’s a lesson I’ve been re-learning over the course of the past few weeks as I re-read Wayne Dyer’s book 10 Secrets to Success and Inner Peace.) In order to keep strong for my mom I have to … Continue reading →

A Trip Down Memory Lane

When I went back to Denver to to get my mom Wayne stayed behind. Physically. But as he is most days, he was never far from my thoughts. Except the thoughts I had of him while I was there were a little bit different. Mostly because I was remembering our earliest years together. Heck, our earliest days. The ones when we very first fell in love. And most of them were sparked when I passed places where we’d shared time together. Tamarac Square There used to be a movie theater inside, and I want to say there still might be … Continue reading →

How Much Time Can You Spend with Your Spouse?

Most women will complain that they do not get to spend enough time with their husband. Most of these women have a family to care for and a husband that works overtime. This situation I can relate to. However, every now and then I run across a situation that is a little different. In some cases, the wife is ready for a break. I hear this happening a lot when a couple has a vacation from work at the same time or the husband has been laid off and is staying home. Both partners may be on leave for a … Continue reading →

Tristi Pinkston Shares Thoughts on Juggling, Ranting and Raving, and Faith

One of my resolutions for ‘08 was to emphasize the positives of marriage. My thinking was that if we have good examples to follow, we’ll have guides to help strengthen our own relationships. That said, I’d like to introduce you to my fellow blogger, Tristi Pinkston. Tristi is a Senior Blogger who covers Media, Movie Reviews, and LDS and has been married to her husband twelve and a half years. I asked if she’d be game for an interview because she’s a very witty, wise woman who always has sage advice. In other words, she’s primo role model material. I … Continue reading →

Long Marriages: This Family Knows How to Do It

A few weeks back one of my favorite Families.com commentators, Jade Walker, PM’d me with a subject line that read “A Case for Long Marriages.” Within the PM she included a link to an article and the brief note: “Apparently, the key is to have the wife stay at home.” I would have clicked the link anyway, but that was a definite attention getter. “Has there been some kind of study done proving there’s a correlation between stay-at-home wives/moms and long marriages?” I wondered. Not exactly. But if we study the seven siblings (five sisters and two brothers) who make … Continue reading →