Do you want your marriage to be long-lasting? Of course you do. No one marries with the plan to divorce or dissolve the relationship. In fact, when we marry – we desire companionship, company, love and yes, happiness. To achieve all those things though, we need our marriage to possess positive character traits. Character is something we try to instill in our children and as a society; we laud the signs of character in others.
Character includes:
- Honesty
- Loyalty
- Fidelity
- Trust
- Generosity
- Selflessness
- Kindness
Incorporating Character Into Your Marriage
When you incorporate character into your marriage, you are making it a happier place to be – for you and your spouse. Happier may not be the right word – but what about desirable? Yes, desirable is a better word. After all, when you have honesty, loyalty, trust, fidelity, selflessness, kindness and generosity in your relationship – why would you want to be anywhere else?
Character in a marriage can help you overcome even the most difficult of problems and situations. When trust, what I consider to be the pinnacle of character exists in a marriage, doubts cannot flourish. Doubting your partner leads to mistrust or happens because you do not trust them. Without trust, why would you believe them? When you question everything they say and demand proof for their statements – you’re cultivating a very negative atmosphere.
Loyalty is another important trait. Because you should be able to have faith in your partner’s loyalty at all times. I know if someone were speaking badly about me, my husband would not allow it. He would defend me whether he agreed with the other person or not – because his loyalty is to me and the reverse is true. I defend him – because we all have flaws, but no one needs to pick apart my husband, especially if I am standing there.
Fidelity is obvious, but there are all kinds of fidelity. There is emotional and physical fidelity as well as mental fidelity. You should possess all three in your marriage and have the trust and loyalty to know it’s there. Character is important in a successful marriage and you need to take a good long look at your own character to make sure you are bringing that good character to your marriage as well.
How important is good character to you?