Yesterday we looked at things to discuss before marriage. Here are some more things on the checklist of things that should be discussed.
Attitudes towards work and family life. The person, who is a workaholic or a professional student always wanting to gain new skills, can have a detrimental effect on marriage. They may have trouble making time and making it a priority to nurture their marriage and family relationships.
Finances and whether you will have separate bank accounts or a joint account. Even if there is a joint account, will each person have their own spending money that they never have to account for? How important money is and furthering in a career as against time spent together with spouse or family?
Belief – This might include what each of you believe and why. How your belief about God affects your lifestyle and actions and how important that is. Which denomination and which church you will you attend and also what you raise children to believe or belong to.
Where you will live. This if often tied up with finances and career options as well as priorities about children and work situations as well. If you are on one income once children are born you may have less choice about where you live. There are often befits though to being on one income. .
Family issues, which include relationships an attitudes towards, parents and siblings. Some will want to spend more time with family members and have big Christmases with them. Others may not. The way we are brought up and how close we are to family can impact on our own marriage.
Discipline regarding bringing up of children. Parent need to be united when it comes to children and what is acceptable and what is not. Otherwise children can be very quick to play one parent off against the other.
Join me tomorrow for final thoughts on this topic of what to discuss before marriage.
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