It’s that time of year. Christmas parties are in full swing. We’ve been to two in the last two nights. Other people I know are faced with the dilemma of two parties on the same night and having to make a choice.
Now I love to have a good time, whether it’s at a party or anywhere else, but in the festive season we need to be a little more careful – careful when it comes to our marriages.
Some people come over all kissy kissy at Christmas parties, especially when they have a little bit of alcohol on board. So what can you do to ensure you have a good Christmas and still maintain the exclusivity of the marriage relationship?
Dress Appropriately
Be careful in the way you dress, which means clothes designed to inflame passions.
Don’t flirt.
It can be all to easy to send the wrong signals and to leave ourselves wide open to misunderstandings
If you know a certain person has a tendency to flirt and get amorous when they’ve had a few drinks, don’t leave yourself vulnerable and in places where you’re not in full view of the crowd. There’s safety in numbers so don’t wander off alone.
Turn the other cheek
If someone wants a kiss, turn your face so they kiss your cheek. My lips are for Mick almost exclusively. The only two exceptions are my son and daughter. All other adults including my son-in-law and daughter-in-law get kissed on the cheek. Mick does the same. He never kisses another woman on the lips and turns to the side if someone tries to land a kiss on his lips.
Alcohol in Moderation
Don’t get carried away with drinking. Alcohol loosens inhibitions, causing people to do things they might not normally do. A better idea is to limit the amount of alcohol you drink at a party.
These are just a few of the ways of protecting a marriage. They’re important to remember because all too often affairs start from something as simple as an unguarded moment where friends have overstepped the boundaries. I’ve heard of several marriages recently where a close friend or neighbor was the one responsible for breaking up a marriage, and sometimes two marriages. So we need to be vigilant.
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