Shouldn’t family be there for you no matter what? This is a question that I find myself asking as I sit in my husband’s hospital room. His family only calls or comes around when he is sick; now that does not make any sense to me. Shouldn’t family be there whether you are sick or not? Should brothers and sisters only call when you are in the hospital? Should they only be able to find time to visit when you are in the hospital? When he is in the hospital they find time to spend with him any other time they are too busy. I get it people get worried when a loved one is in the hospital but shouldn’t you care about family 24/7 365?
This really is what is going on with us and it just bewilders me. We have called my in-laws a couple times a week to come and visit with the kids or have them over our house for dinner and they are just too busy to spend time with him and my kids. My brother in law has not called our house I don’t think at least in the last year but he finds out his brother is in the hospital and he is calling to chat. His sister calls being all concerned calling and wanting to come visit but any other time no calls and no visits. We told her she could visit but leave the family drama at home so she chose not to visit.
I was joking with my husband that we may need to move into the hospital just so his family will call and visit. Now he is in the hospital because of extremely high blood pressure and a lot of that is caused by the stress that he has been under due to his family issues.
Contrary to what his family will say I am not the cause of the family problems, they just don’t like that we have our own lives to live and we want to have family traditions that we start. If you have ever seen the show “Everybody Loves Raymond” then you surely remember Marie; Marie was an angel compared to my mother in law. Half of the episodes we swear they had a hidden camera in our lives and made into a sitcom.