Are you comfortable with your spouse? One of the great things of being married is being with someone with whom you don’t have to pretend, where you can simply be yourself and know that they love you for who you are.
It’s good to be able to relax in a relationship and that’s certainly what you want in a marriage. You don’t want to have to feel that you’re always on edge watching what you say or do in case it’s wrong and in case they respond negatively to it.That’s the sort of pressure those who are victims of domestic violence live with every day and it’s no wonder it starts to affect a person’s confidence and personality, making them timid and afraid.
On the other hand, those who have a good marriage know the joy of being able to express their opinions without fear of reprisal. Often, one of the things which is helpful in a marriage is to disagree and get the other point of view. It’s also good to be in agreement and on the same wave length, as it should be in a good marriage much of the time.
While it is good to feel comfortable with your spouse, you can be too comfortable. Another word for it would be complacent. You then think that anything is good enough. You no longer have to try to please your spouse. You no longer have to worry what your spouse thinks, or what you do since you’re married. That attitude sounds to me like the quickest way to the divorce courts.
Being comfortable with your spouse doesn’t mean you never have to try or you don’t have to make the effort. It just means you can relax, but it doesn’t mean you’re not still alert to areas in your marriage that need to be worked on and can be improved.
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