Several different articles so far have addressed in-laws. We have discussed holiday dinners with difficult in-laws, living with in-laws, and other in-law scenarios.
It is no doubt that in-laws have gathered a bad stereotype when it comes to marriage. In many cases it is thought that in-laws are not supposed to get along. Once married, women are thought to have to tiptoe around their husbands’ mothers and men are thought to be afraid of their wives’ fathers.
Yet this does not always hold true, there are many in-law relationships out there that are perfectly great.
However, even if you have a good relationship with your in-laws, it is likely that at some point in time they will do something that gets under your skin. It may be words spoken, actions, or just a look. Yet it will be something that irritates you.
While our spouses should be our closest friends and the ones that we share all with, it may not be a good idea to bash your in-laws to your spouse. If you do decide to let your spouse know how you are feeling, try to choose appropriate words. Make the conversation focus more on your feelings than blaming his or her parents.
Like in many cases, we feel comfortable saying something about our family but it hits harder when someone else says it. No one likes to hear his or her family being put down. Therefore be considerate of your spouse’s feelings.
It is also important to remember that your spouse’s family does not always reflect on your spouse. While many traits, characteristics, and personalities are passed from family member to family member, you cannot hold something that his or her family does against your spouse. Do not let the in-laws come between the two of you. The argument is not worth jeopardizing your marriage.
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