Yesterday, several friends were talking about a show they’d seen on TV that morning. It raised the point about what are the worst faults you spouse has in bed. People it seemed were quite happy to get on television and put their spouse down for their faults whether they be snoring or they had another annoying habits.
One woman went on to list a number of faults her husband had. And then thought she‘d better stop in case he was watching the show. It’s a bit late then after she’d already aired all the secrets.
I couldn’t help thinking what a shame it was that people were so ready to share their spouse’s faults. Some things that occur in the privacy of a bedroom should stay right there.
So no, I’m not going to share faults here because I think how much better and it would have been to share their good qualities. How much better it would be too for our marriage to concentrate on the good qualities.
One of the things I appreciate about my husband is that even when we don’t see things the same way, he does try and see where I’m coming from. Often it’s a basic male or female difference and other times it’s a personality difference, but regardless of our differences he always allows that I have a valid right to my opinions and to add input to decisions or to arrive at a different conclusion.
This sort of attitude makes it easy to communicate and discuss things, because I never feel I am going to be put down or ridiculed just because my opinion may be different to his. I can’t imagine what it must be like to have someone who disregards their spouse’s opinion and feelings. As any of you who regularly read my blogs will know I believe communication is a key element in marriage, so is concentrating on the good qualities rather than the bad.
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