I have always been a firm believer in date nights. Although we didn’t get to enjoy as many as we would have liked when our children were younger, we still tried to make sure they happened.
But just as important as date nights are, I also think getting out with another couple is beneficial to a marriage. This is a great way to connect with others who are like-minded.
When you spend time with another married couple, you get to observe their interactions. This can cause you to stop and think about something in your own marriage that could be improved or it can cause you to stop and thank God you married the person you did.
While I certainly enjoy going out to dinner with my husband, I enjoy it just as much when we go out with another couple. Sometimes it helps us to not feel so alone in our family struggles. Other times it gives an opportunity to laugh at ourselves. We can swap stories and offer encouragement or advice.
About a month ago we had a dinner scheduled with another couple. Literally 20 minutes before we were supposed to meet them, a blowup occurred in our home. I was ready to throttle one of my children.
But the dinner date saved me. I had no choice but to put off the problem, since they were already at the restaurant waiting for us (by then we were running late).
While at first I was a little frustrated we had this dinner planned, the timing ended up being perfect. My husband and I were able to share what was going on. We not only receive their advice but the assurance that we weren’t the only ones who experienced difficulties with their teens.
Connecting with other married couples can actually enhance your marriage, so plan not only date nights with your spouse but with others.
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