In today’s unstable work environment most families will experience a time when a parent loses their job. Many parents do not realize that their fears and insecurity are transferred to their children. As a result their child also experience stress as their sense of security is shaken because of the job loss.
It is important that when a parent loses their job that time is taken to explain to the children what has happened, how it will affect them, and what their parents are doing to resolve the issue.
Obviously really young children do not need a detailed explanation yet explaining what has happened is important. Even young children recognize tension but may believe that they are the source unless the reason for the tension is explained.
For school age children or older, parents can sit down and honestly explain what has happened. Reassure them that your family will get through this. Explain how the job loss will affect your family. That you will be limiting the toys, clothes, food eaten out, and vacations taken until a new job is found. It isn’t necessary to explain how you will meet your financial obligations or your concerns over paying the bills.
Children can also contribute to the family and alleviate their feeling of helplessness. Parenting 4 Kids suggests that children can help by, “checking the newspaper for coupons, and saving money by turning off lights and not letting the water run too long.” Children may also be able to make money by mowing lawns, babysitting, or doing other jobs that they can add to the family funds. For birthdays or Christmas make your gifts or give gifts of service.
Just because you don’t have extra money to go out doesn’t mean that you can’t still have fun. In fact without a job you probably have extra time to spend as a family. So focus on the positive and take advantage of the situation by going on walks, playing games, watching movies, and doing free activities together.
Having limited funds may be an adjustment. But children are resilient. This is a great time for them to learn that life isn’t always easy but as a family you can get through anything.