Could you let your spouse die? I have a friend who had to watch his wife die of a terminal illness and I know how hard he found it and wished he could do anything to prevent it. But to knowingly and willfully let his spouse die as this man has been convicted of doing when he could have done something to prevent it, what sort of man would do this? This man pleaded guilty to manslaughter and was sentenced after letting his wife die on their honeymoon when, according to reports. Again you wonder, what sort of marriage was it?
Apparently the wedding day was like the fairytale wedding but what one earth was it based on if eleven days later he, an experienced diver, could turn around and let her go to her death?
What is going on in our world? On what basis are people getting married these days? You have to wonder if they have seriously thought about what they are doing and what it means. So often it seems it is all about making the day special and not thinking further ahead than that. It’s all about the fuss on the day of the ceremony, the flower the bridesmaids the music, the reception – all the myriad peripheral things that go to make up a wedding day. It’s like some people don’t stop to think beyond that. They don’t stop to think of the reality of whether that is the person they want to be with for the rest of their life. They don’t stop to think about the reality of waking up next to that person for the next twenty or thirty or forty years.
Marriage to me means being together because you love each other. It means you could not imagine being apart from each other for any great length of time because you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. They don’t stop to think whether they are suited, compatible, about how they will handle problems when they arise and work through them.
Sadly I think we have got it all out of proportion and too much emphasis is placed on the wedding day itself. It’s all about the celebration and not on the day to day reality of being married and staying married and working to make that marriage the best it can be. Would you agree?
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