Fortunately I have been blessed to not have experienced the loss of a child. However, I know some couples that have. Whether it has been an illness, death at birth, or an accident, each couple experienced great sadness.
The emotional stress that comes with the loss of a child can cause great hardships on the marriage of a couple. One never knows exactly how they will react in a situation like this. One also hopes that they never have to find out just how they would react. Yet, terrible things happen in our imperfect world here on earth.
While in a time like this I would hope that a couple would grow stronger and support one another, sometimes the couple grows apart instead.
This especially happens if one of the parents begins to feel resentment toward the other. If one parent was with the child, the other may begin to throw blame. I know some couples that have lost children in car accidents. The parent that was driving tends to receive a harder time and carry some of the blame. This can also happen if the accident was through a recreational activity that was supported by one of the parents.
When a couple loses a child, I feel that it is best for the couple to receive counseling. Even if there are no foreseen troubles between the partners, the support could not hurt.
Losing a child is a terrible experience for anyone to have to face. This is a time to put selfish feelings of loss aside and focus on how you can work together and help one another.
It is understandable that each parent feels that they are experiencing greater sadness. However, it is important to remember that each parent loved his or her child in a special way. Giving up on or losing your marriage is not the answer to finding peace.
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