Do you remember the when you were dating your spouse and that happy tingly feeling that you had? Do you remember all the nice things that you used to do for each other when you were first married? It is important to continue to have that feeling of courtship.
A strong marriage helps to hold the family together. It is also important that you have a good relationship with your spouse since we believe in eternal marriage. It takes time to maintain a good relationship with your spouse. It is important to realize that you are each responsible for making the relationship work. It should be a daily process. There are times that will be better than others, the trick is to keep in mind the goals that you are working towards, as well as how much you really do love your spouse.
If you are going through a rocky time in your relationship you may want to take the time to remember why you love your spouse. If the struggles are especially difficult you may want to talk to your bishop and see a marriage counselor. Sometimes it is easier to resolve differences when you have a third party refereeing the discussions. You should make time to date your spouse again. Praying for your spouse is another great way to help you through a difficult time.
If things are going well, it is important to take time to maintain the relationship. Praying together, scripture study and temple attendance are all great ways to sustain your relationship. Date night is another great way to make sure that you are connecting with your spouse. The church leaders have asked us to set aside that time each week for a reason. It is important to follow that counsel.
No matter how well your relationship is going, you can still strive to return that feeling of when you first started dating. You can leave little love notes for your spouse, surprise her with a cooked dinner at home, or plan an overnight vacation without the kids to keep those feelings going. It is okay to flirt with your spouse and to sneak kisses. The more time you spend together focusing on your relationship, the happier you will be.
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