It is important to create an environment in your home that will be welcoming and calm. It is the parents’ responsibility to set the tone for the rest of the home. It can be difficult when your teenagers seem determined to undermine the tone that you want to set for you house, but as you constantly strive for it you will create a home that is full of love and peace.
One of the most important things you can do is create a clean and orderly environment. This is such a positive motivating factor. It can cut down on squabbles between children, and make it easier for them to find a place to play in. The house will be more inviting and welcoming to guests who may enter it.
The words that you choose to use to address each other also make a big difference in the home. It is important to use respectful encouraging words, and to avoid name-calling and other negative put -downs in your home. The tone of voice that you use will also make a big difference in the response you receive. If you always use a respectful tone and words you are much more likely to receive them from your family.
It is important to monitor all the media (internet, movies, music and television) that you allow into your home. You would not allow someone to come into your home and dump garbage everywhere. Often this is happening when you allow negative media influences in your home. If you are at odds with a teenager about the types of music they listen to, you may request that they listen to the music quietly in their room, instead of exposing the entire family to it.
You can encourage a positive feeling in your home by playing soft uplifting background music in your home. Spending positive time together as a family will also help to strengthen the positive atmosphere in your home. Studying the scriptures and praying together as a family will also help as well.