Sometimes I wonder if, with all of the controversial things about being a single parent, if there is one super-controversial topic. Perhaps, if I had to choose one, I might choose the topic of whether or not single pregnant parents should or shouldn’t date during pregnancy. Of course, I am not the sort of person who is the slightest bit qualified or interested in telling someone else what they should and shouldn’t do—but it does seem like there are some definite considerations for those who have chosen to become or stay pregnant and are single to boot…
To be honest, I do not have a personal or moral problem with a single pregnant mom dating. In fact, I think that if a woman feels up to it and is into it then more power to her. Since I was partnered at the time of my three pregnancies all those years ago, it is not something I have any personal experience with. HOWEVER, I haven’t completely ruled out having more children and I assume that if I do choose to have another biological child or adopt, I will do so as a single parent. And, while I’m not a party animal, I have been known to date a bit. So, the thought of dating while a single pregnant mom is intriguing to me.
I would love to hear from some of you single moms who DID date while pregnant and from some of you who chose not to. Why? Either why did you or why did you not? Does a pregnant woman attract different sorts of “dates” than one who isn’t? I remember feeling pretty darn “icky” during big chunks of my pregnancies and I felt neither attractive nor energetic. It’s hard enough for me to find the energy and interest to date now, with my kids nearly grown, let alone when I was feeling icky, huge, and pregnant! Still, I’m open to discussion. I’d love to hear from other single parents about how THEY feel about the issue of dating during pregnancy?
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Handling Those Intrusive Personal Questions
What NOT to Say to a Single Parent on a Date