Jealousy can be a big issue in some relationships. Some partners find that they become very controlling and obsessive when in a relationship. Others feel more secure and are comfortable with their mate being around others of the opposite sex.
There is a line that can be drawn between being too jealous and too lax in your relationship. While you do not want to put your mate in the old ball and chain, you also want to be able to recognize when something is not right.
Jealousy is not always something that can be controlled. Some people, women especially, become very jealous when their husband talks to or about another woman. This can be an issue even when the wife or girlfriend knows and understands that nothing is or ever will take place between the two.
Women who have these feelings often wish that they could make them go away. The feeling often ruins the mood and the tone in the relationship for them.
If you are feeling one of these involuntary jealous feelings there are some things that you can do to help ease the jealousy.
Begin by taking slow and deep breaths. While you are taking these breaths begin thinking positive thoughts. Try thinking about a positive experience or action that your husband carried out. Remember the things that he does to show his love for you.
When you are feeling jealous, remind yourself that this is a normal behavior shared by many people and that nothing is wrong in your relationship. Think about what it is that the other person has that you do not have. Is there really anything to be jealous of? Then try to uncover the things about you that would make others jealous.
If the situation is very casual and you are experiencing unneeded or warranted jealousy, the best thing to do is to let it pass without mentioning it to your mate. In most cases there is no way that your mate could realistically elevate your jealousy. Doing so would likely include forbidding him to talk to waitresses, pretty women, etc.