What defines a compatible relationship? We talked about the 5 most incompatible relationship types yesterday, so it seems somewhat appropriate to discuss what comprises a compatible relationship. There are three major components in a compatible relationship. These components include:
- Spiritual
- Physical
- Social
These are the areas of self-definition and those self made definitions are important to your overall compatibility with another person. Spirituality has different levels of importance to different people. If you are a deeply spiritual person with very strong opinions and beliefs on holidays, prayer and baptism – then it’s likely you are going to be more compatible with another person of equally strong and similar beliefs.
The physical connection is not one we can fake. You need the physical chemistry, the sexual attraction and spark. This is as important as the spiritual compatibility because even though your attraction may wax on and wane off over the years, you need a basis for it to begin with. Without the physical chemistry, the relationship is not necessarily bad. It just means it’s platonic and a platonic friendship is not to be sneezed at.
The last component is a social one and it’s made up of all our experiences both with our families and with our upbringing. Intensely social people often need other social individuals. The gregarious and the outgoing often seek out their like in the opposite sex. But it’s more than just being alike, personality wise – it’s about seeking similar things in your personal lives. If you both value family, this is a a good indicator of a strong component to your overall compatibility.
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