It can be difficult to find the “right” time to talk about an issue. No one wants to start off their day having a serious discussion.
Most of us don’t want to get into a heavy topic right when we walk in the door after work. And we might not be interested in conversing later on in the evening, when we finally get a chance to relax.
So when does a couple find the time to talk? I think one of those is dinner time. Of course, if you have children and you need to discuss a marital issue, that isn’t the right time.
But if you want to talk about “safer” topics, such as where to go for family vacation or how to handle a problem at work, the dinner table can be the perfect spot for this to happen. It can also provide teachable moments to the children.
Now I have to admit, we eat together as a family a lot less now that the kids are older. When they were younger, it just seemed easier to do. These days, schedules and other commitments tend to get in the way more often than I would like.
But I would really like to bring back those regular times at the table. We had some great discussions.
In fact, what often happens is that long after the children have finished up and left, my husband and I will continue to sit and talk. No one wants to get up. We are full, satisfied and enjoying the chance to just relax.
So many times our discussions will continue or that will be our chance to address something we didn’t want to in front of the children. It just seems to be a perfect opportunity to share.
When do you and your spouse find the time to talk? What tips do you have for improving communication in your marriage?
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