Recently in one of my articles, I read a comment from JadeWalker (a very devoted reader) about one of her questions that she used to ask men when she was dating. She questioned them about their current relationship with ex girlfriends. She prefers men who are mature enough to handle a friendship or at least a civil relationship with exs.
After reading this comment I began thinking about certain criteria that we have for dating and for marriage. To be honest, I really do not think that I had any. I had standards for wanting a nice guy. I would not date guys who were into illegal activities or who were known to be “no good”. However when I met my husband, I had not thought through or even thought about the details in the type of man I would marry.
I think that a lot about dating depends on age. My husband and I began dating at an early age (before I could even drive!) I was just excited about being able to date, much less about creating a list of dos and don’ts when it comes to choosing men.
The older you are the more you think about what type of person you need and are looking for in marriage. Truth be known, many married high school sweethearts likely would not have chosen each other had they met later in life.
I think it also matters on how the relationship came about. If you are looking for mate, you are likely more choosy and picky and have certain specifications to follow. However, some of us just have that head over heels love fall in our lap and can hopelessly do nothing about it. While our basic criteria are met, we worry less about the small details.
So my question for the readers is:
Do you or did you have certain questions or criteria for men to meet before dating or before a second date would occur? If so, what are they?