A few months have passed since we tried to talk with the in-laws about the issues that we have had over the last year and a half. They still did not want to talk about it, they seriously think that if you ignore it they will go away. When we try to bring the issues up they say that I am just trying to stir the pot and rehash old issues. Yes the issues did not happen yesterday but when someone intentionally calls you by your husband’s ex-wife’s names, by saying they can’t come to our wedding because they don’t condone the marriage the hurt feelings do not just evaporate. I still wanted to have a sit down and express how I was feeling.
We thought this would be something that is important as we wanted the tension to be gone before we got children placed with us for adoption. We had just started the process and we knew that we had to wait until our third anniversary before the foster license could be issued and we could get put in for kids. We had the three year waiting period because this was my husband’s second marriage and Texas law states that we had to wait otherwise we would have already been put in for children. The fact that we wanted to adopt instead of having our own biological children was another area that there were issues with the in-laws. They felt like we were rushing everything we bought a house in a town they did not like, so we could be the first of the siblings to do so. They thought we were adopting only so we could be the first to have children and that I was just a wimp and that is why I wanted to adopt.
The issues with my in-laws were many and the list keeps growing and growing and no one but us wants to resolve it. I really do not understand why they keep putting us off when we try to talk to them. We were getting ready to ask for a meeting again when my father in law had a heart issue and had to have a stint put in. When we went to the hospital everyone was all hugs and kisses, and so sweet to us I almost went into diabetic coma. When the medical crisis was over it was back to the cold shoulder, no calls and basic avoidance when we tried to talk. We were actually put on a 90 day time out by his parents. They said they needed time without talking to us or seeing us to see how they felt. Yes I am serious this really did happen, and more than one time I may add.