I can remember one episode of Roseanne when Jackie was trying to decide what to tell her boyfriend about her past sexual history and experiences. Roseanne suggested that she tell him a lower number than really existed. She also stated that men usually raise their number to try to be impressive.
I then began thinking about the differences that are placed on males and females when it comes to sexual history. Through all stages of life it seems that it is much more acceptable for males to be taking part in sexual activities than for females. However if I am not mistaken, it does take both. Yet men receive honors when they have a high number and women receive ugly name calling.
I think we would all like to believe that we are the only experience that our mate has had. However, in today’s world that just is not always the case. It would seem that the older you are when you meet your mate, the more likely it is that he or she has had past relations.
So how important is your mate’s history to you? Do you ask for all of the old details of the times before the two of you met or do you just live in the present and think little of the past?
While we cannot change our mate’s past, there are reasons for concern. Disease is a major one.
I also think that one’s view on their mate’s history may have a lot to do with their own personal history. If you have a rather lengthy past, you probably do not think much of your mate’s past. However, if you are more on the conservative side, you are likely more interested in the whos and whats of the past.
Either way, if you truly love your mate and want the relationship to last, you can’t hold the “before you came along” against your partner.
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