When you read the headline of this post, does it scare you because of the potential bad things you might learn about your spouse? When you think of the question posed, it might make you a little nervous, but hopefully you will consider the possibility of discovering new and positive things about your spouse.
Are you ever amazed when you learn something new about someone else? Is it possible that maybe there’s more to learn about your own spouse?
Some people feel that they know each other very well in a marriage situation, but what they fail to realize is that people change over the years. Attitudes change, opinions vary, habits shift, consciousness evolves and etc. Nothing stays static. This is why communication is important.
One of the worst feelings a person can experience is feeling as if they are being taken for granted. When you know someone really well, that can happen. Spouses often take each other for granted and assume they know what the other is thinking and how they might react. This leads to presuming reactions, which in turn, can lead to all kinds of misunderstandings and unnecessary bickering.
The best way to avoid these types of scenarios is to honestly ask the opinion of your spouse on various topics. Even if you know what they’ll say, let them say it anyway. Don’t interrupt them. Spend time nurturing the emotional intimacy that will emerge from open communication.
The great thing about getting input from your spouse on various topics and issues is that you might learn that he or she actually feels differently than you had assumed. Sometimes people go along with the flow, but deep down, they’d like to do things a little bit differently. If no communication takes place, you’ll never know if that’s the case with your spouse.