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Ease Your Child’s Transition: Learn Cultural Child Care Practices

Rachel’s recent blog on babywearing reminded me of the many hours I spent wearing my one-year-old daughter Meg in a traditional Korean podaegi, a quilt-like baby carrier, and how much it comforted her while she was grieving for the foster mother who had cared for her for ten months. This got me thinking about the difference in child care among cultures. I would urge adoptive parents to learn as much as they can about child care in their child’s country, and if possible how your child in particular was cared for.

Especially for the older baby or toddler, keeping some child care practices the same may help them through the trauma of the move. Remember the child is already experiencing the loss of familiar faces, places, smells, language, time zones, climate and more.

Many babies and toddlers in other parts of the world are used to being held by foster parents and unused to being left in swings, cribs and strollers. Conversely some babies from orphanages may be unused to prolonged face-to-face interaction and need to be eased into it. They may not be used to being the only child around.

Korean babies usually sleep with their mothers on a mat or futon-like setting on the floor, and many Korean foster mothers follow this practice. My daughter had slept with her foster mother, then been transitioned from the foster mother’s Western-style bed to a mat on the floor next to the mother’s bed. However, the foster mother lay down with her until she was asleep. We allowed our daughters to share our king-size bed for several months after they came home. (We ended up doing this for a while with our birth son too, as do many mothers who practice attachment parenting or long-term breastfeeding.)

The Korean babies are carried on their foster mothers’ backs almost constantly. I was able to find a Korean baby carrier, a podaegi, which is quite different from most carriers, being basically a quilt which ties a baby onto your back.

I was able to find a website with directions for wearing and information on ordering the podaegi as well as many other kinds of baby carriers, some inspired by traditional carriers of the Mayan Indians, parts of Africa or the Pacific Islands. The websites include pictures of how to put it on the carrier yourself (I always had my husband help me, and didn’t try to carry other things while I was wearing my daughter in it. We used it mostly at night when we were trying to get her days and nights switched to our time zone. My husband would tie her onto me before he went to bed (his job was to get up early with our toddler son) and Meg and I would walk the floors for hours…I’m actually kind of nostalgic about it now. Note: If you are adopting internationally and have children already, plan ahead to have someone help you with the older children who may be on a completely different time schedule. We had one kid finally going to sleep at five am and her brother waking up at seven.

In Korea they called this form of carrying “obo” and if Meg was crying I would just say, “obo?” and lift her to my back (even without the carrier for brief periods).
I was very happy to have had this for Meg–it is what she was used to and I think it was a comfort.

Please see these related blogs:

Babywearing

Baby Carriers 101

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About Pam Connell

Pam Connell is a mother of three by both birth and adoption. She has worked in education, child care, social services, ministry and journalism. She resides near Seattle with her husband Charles and their three children. Pam is currently primarily a Stay-at-Home-Mom to Patrick, age 8, who was born to her; Meg, age 6, and Regina, age 3, who are biological half-sisters adopted from Korea. She also teaches preschoolers twice a week and does some writing. Her activities include volunteer work at school, church, Cub Scouts and a local Birth to Three Early Intervention Program. Her hobbies include reading, writing, travel, camping, walking in the woods, swimming and scrapbooking. Pam is a graduate of Seattle University and Gonzaga University. Her fields of study included journalism, religious education/pastoral ministry, political science and management. She served as a writer and editor of the college weekly newspaper and has been Program Coordinator of a Family Resource Center and Family Literacy Program, Volunteer Coordinator at a church, Religion Teacher, Preschool Teacher, Youth Ministry Coordinator, Camp Counselor and Nanny. Pam is an avid reader and continuing student in the areas of education, child development, adoption and public policy. She is eager to share her experiences as a mother by birth and by international adoption, as a mother of three kids of different learning styles and personalities, as a mother of kids of different races, and most of all as a mom of three wonderful kids!