Do you suffer from depression? Most of us, at one time or another, suffer from depression. It can run the gamut from just feeling a little blue to being unable to function. Major life changes can lead to depression so it’s no surprise that many women who go through a divorce suffer from some form of depression.
Many of us think we are just fine. We sweep our feelings under the rug because, now with our new single mom status, we just don’t have time or energy to worry about ourselves. We are focused on survival. I know that sounds dramatic but that’s what it can feel like when you are newly divorced.
As mothers we worry more about everyone else. We are constantly wondering if the kids are behaving normally, is this just a phase or is this a result of the divorce. If the kids aren’t acting out we worry that they are keeping their feelings bottled up. It’s no surprise to find that you are at the bottom of your list of things to worry about but depression is nothing to take lightly.
Most of us will only be mildly depressed but that can affect our daily lives as well. I remember a time when I just wanted to sleep, as soon as dinner was done, I went to sleep on the couch and Hailey woke me up when it was time for bed. I climbed the stairs and went back to sleep.
Needless to say I wasn’t taking very good care of Hailey’s needs when I was always sleeping. I searched the internet for things I could do, I’m not opposed to medication for people who really need it but I didn’t think my depression was severe enough to warrant medication.
The main thing I saw over and over was sunshine and exercise. It worked. I had to force myself initially, I could find so many reasons just to curl up on the couch, but I made myself do it. Hailey and I went for walks, hikes and bike rides. We walked to the store and bought ice cream cones. We walked to the park and I pushed her on the swings. Anything to get out of the house.
After a while I didn’t have to force myself to go anymore and I’m happy to say, the depression passed. If you are feeling mildly blue, try getting outside with the kids. If that doesn’t work or you are more than just a little blue, talk to your doctor. There is no shame in asking for help to be the best mom, woman, human being that you can be.