I realize that for many, there is much to be celebrated about since New York passed its same-sex marriage bill which will allow for gay marriage to be legal starting on July 24, 2011.
But do we really have to start tearing down the traditional marriage? That is exactly what happened in a recent article that appeared in the “New York Times.” It was written by a homosexual sex-advice columnist, Dan Savage. He said that fidelity destroys more marriages than it saves (I would like to see the statistics on that one).
Yes, you read that right. It is the decision to be faithful that wrecks a marriage. And the “New York Times” seemed to be all over this, praising Dan Savage for coming against the whole concept of being faithful to your spouse.
Now if Savage could have his way, a new concept would emerge called the “American Gay Male.” This would include enjoying a variety of fetishes and being involved with multiple partners. You know what…if anyone wants to take the dangerous risk of sleeping with numerous people, I can’t stop you. But do we really have to try and promote this type of behavior?
In his view, there are some people that just can’t be satisfied with one person. They have the right to satisfy their urges. And in his eyes, you should be able to be honest with your marriage partner and express your need for another person.
His partner, which they are also raising a son together, allow for flings once-in-a-while. They are honest with each other about their infidelity, which he believes is more important than faithfulness (the honesty part). He also believes that the straight community needs to have a more flexible attitude about marriage relationships.
I’m sorry, but if getting bills passed to have the right to get married when you are gay is what you want, great…but don’t start tearing down the traditional marriage and challenging the concept of fidelity.
Do what you want but leave us to enjoy safe, fulfilling, and what has been shown time and time again, to be healthy to children…a strong marriage that involves commitment and loyalty.
Traditional marriage has been under attack and it is growing. While new laws are being passed allowing for untraditional marriages to take place, we can’t let that replace what has worked for hundreds of years.
And I completely disagree with Dan Savage…more marriages are saved with fidelity rather than not.
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