We single parents get enough judgment from folks for free, we shouldn’t have to pay for it too. At least, that is my theory on why it is important to find service providers—child care providers, doctors, nurses, housekeepers, etc. that are friendly and supportive of our single parent status. I am of the opinion that we don’t need to pay for all that extra judgment that isn’t helpful for us anyway!
I admit, it can be hard to “interview” prospective service providers in order to find out how they feel about single parent families. But, if you are hiring someone to come into your home, or trying to find a family doctor, I do think it is important. We don’t need all that extra bias that can come from people who believe in things like “broken homes” and think that single parent families contribute to all sorts of evils in the Western world. You might not be able to choose some people—your child’s teachers, coaches, and such—but you can find out where they stand on single parent families just by tuning in to the things they say (if you don’t feel like you can ask them directly). Then, you’ll know how you need to approach and work with these individuals to advocate for your child.
Any place your child spends a fair amount of time—day care, school, church, activities, etc.—should be considered for whether or not it is supportive of your family values and your role as a single parent. While we may face some negativity and opposition as we work to build our strong, healthy family—we don’t have to invite all that judgment into our “inner circle.” Find out where your “support staff” stands on your single parent family and choose your providers accordingly.
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