A common complaint that can be heard among many wives, especially those who have small children, is that they wish their husbands would spend more time at home. Some of the men are working long hours or multiple jobs. Other men are simply doing hobbies, playing sports, or hanging out with friends. Regardless, their wives want them at home.
However, there is much more to wishing your husband were at home than just wanting him at home.
What does a wife really mean when she complains that her husband is not home enough or that he does not spend enough time with the family?
She means much more than wanting him at home physically. Many men feel that because their body is at home, they are giving their wives what they want.
Yet, most wives are looking for more than just having their husband physically at home. They also want him to be interactive with the family. They are looking for help with the daily chores. They are looking for communication between the two of them. They are wanting him to spend time playing with the children.
Many men do not get this concept. They feel that they are doing their duty by giving their family their presence. They do not distinguish between time at home and quality time at home. They feel that sitting on the couch watching television is time well spent at home.
Therefore the next time that you complain to your husband about not spending enough time at home, think about what you really want. Do you just want your husband at home or do you want more? Try rephrasing your desires and being more specific about what it is that you really want. Express to your husband that want more interaction between the two of you and more bonding and connection time.
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