Does it ever feel like you tell your child something ten times before you get a response out of them? I know I’ve felt that way countless times with my three year old. It feels like he never listens to me! However, if you are consistent and follow these simple strategies it may make your life a little bit easier when it comes to teaching your toddler to be a good listener.
Be clear with your child about what you expect from them. At two and three they really don’t need a big long explanation of why you ask them to do something. Sometimes your message gets lost in the explanation. Instead of saying, “I’d like you need to put your coat on because it is cold outside and I don’t want you to get sick again.” Simply say, “It’s time to put your coat on.” That way they know exactly what you expect them to do. There is no question. Don’t give them a choice if they really don’t have one. For example, “You can put your coat on or you can go out and freeze.” If you really aren’t going to let them go out into the cold without their coat on, don’t give them the option.
Give warnings before any change is going to take place. If they are playing with a friend, go in and tell them that you are going to be leaving in a few minutes and that they need to come when you call them. That way they are more prepared and have had some time to process the change.
Always follow through with what you say you are going to do. If you tell your child they are going to be in time out if they hit their brother, be prepared to stick them in time out when the blow comes. If you tell them no candy before dinner and cave in five minutes later, you have just taught your child that if they throw a temper tantrum long enough they will get what they want.
Be an example to your child of a good listener. This can be a hard one when you are in the middle of making dinner and you have a chatty toddler. Try not to turn your back on them or walk away when they are talking to you. Give them your undivided attention and show them that you care about what they have to say. The more you practice with them the better they will get. Practice makes perfect…well almost!