Christmas time is all about the gift of giving, but when it comes to presents for the ex, things get a little tricky. It has always been important to me for Logan to have the opportunity to give his dad something for Christmas, birthdays, and other such holidays. The first year his dad seemed to feel the same way. Though neither of us had much money, we both made an effort to take Logan to pick something out for the other. It meant a lot to Logan to be able to give us something, since he couldn’t do much on his own. It was fun for him to pick something out special for each of his parents.
As time went on, his dad stopped engaging in this little ritual. It was then that I was faced with a difficult decision. I was already struggling for money and to spend it on my ex when he wasn’t returning the favor was a little irritating for me. It wasn’t about the gifts, I didn’t really care if I got thing one way or the other, it was just the principle of the matter.
In the end, I decided it wasn’t about my ex, it was about Logan. The gifts weren’t as big as they were to begin with, but I wanted Logan to still have the opportunity to give his dad something on special days like this. Luckily, my parents have graciously stepped in to make sure Logan has the opportunity to give his mommy some gifts too. Logan had a great time picking things out with Grandma this year and he had fun making some ornaments for his dad as well. At the end of the day, both of his parents had a special gift from their son, no matter who helped him give it.