It’s always interesting to hear or read about other people and what works in their marriages. We can often pick up tips and ideas we can incorporate to improve our own.
Yesterday I read a blog by the wife of a footballer, talking about goals, not the goals scored in football although that did come into it a little, but setting goals in your life. Goal setting is something she said she learned from her husband who is big on the idea of goal setting. It gave me something to think about.
Often when we get married we set goals about where we want to live, what we want to achieve in our careers, when we will have a family and how many children we will have. Of course, even with all the advances made in science and medicine, sometimes things don’t always work out according to plan and so we might have to re-shape or even forgo those goals. For example a woman may not be able to fall pregnant because of some medical problem or she may end up having twins or an unexpected illness changes what we can do. There are lots of things life throws at us sometimes that will interfere with plans and goals we have set, so we have to be flexible and not be too rigid with our goals.
Goal setting is not something Mick and I have done a lot of in our marriage. We did have a goal for several years before he retired. Our goal was that when he retired we would move somewhere closer to family and out of an area where cold affected such things as arthritis, which as you gets older can be a problem. Our goal was to sell the house and move as soon as he retired. It didn’t quite work that way. We ended up getting here 5 months later than we had planned. But the important thing is we got here in the end. So we achieved our goal, just not when we’d initially thought.
Have you and your spouse ever sat down and set goals for your lives? How close to the reality were those goals or are they still a work in progress?
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