New homeschoolers will have to deal with them for many years to come. Experienced homeschoolers have had to for as long as they have homeschooled, and will continue to handle them till they “graduate” their last child. Homeschooling objections; no one looks forward to them, but if you plan ahead it can make the situation much easier. The more you handle them, the more comfortable you become with handling them.
How I handle homeschooling objections depends on who’s bringing them up and what their intent is. Sometimes I can’t tell their intent right away; but, a lot of times if I listen to their tone and watch their body language I can get an idea of where they are coming from. Even if I think I have an idea of where they are coming from, I am still careful how I answer questions because I just never know for sure. It could be someone genuinely interested but they’ve had a rough day. It could be someone feeling guilty about sending their children to public school so they are on the defensive. It could be a false supporter baiting and waiting to hear anything negative.
First keep in mind you don’t know where the person is coming from and it doesn’t mean it’s the start of an argument. Then answer their questions honestly but don’t over answer. Don’t go on a 20 or 30 minute spiel for one question. Give them the information they asked for. If they feel they need more information or have more questions let them ask for it. Don’t get upset if they need more information on the subject than you did when you decided to homeschool. Don’t be surprised if they ask you 10 questions just on socialization. As long as it continues as a conversation, it’s okay.
If the “informational” conversation turns into a badgering, if the person starts to be rude or loud, or if you feel like you are starting to be attacked end the conversation. There is no reason you have to sit through a situation you are not comfortable with. Try to change the subject of the conversation. If that doesn’t work, think of a reason to end the conversation.
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