Have you found Mr. Right? Or have you simply found Mr. Right Now? The difference really falls into the categories of who you are looking for. For those who are desperately seeking someone else to fulfill the role of Mr. Right in their lives, it’s a misconception that he can be forced into the mold of ‘happily ever after.’
If you care for someone deeply and find yourself wondering if they are indeed the ‘one’ then ask yourself the following questions: Does he have admirable integrity? Is he the kind of person who does what he says he was going to do? Does he finish what he starts? Do you respect him as a person and as a man? Do you feel that he respects you as a person and a woman? Does he actually treat you with respect? (There is a difference!) Does he make you feel beautiful? Does he make you feel special? Does he make you feel important?
If you’ve said yes to most of these, you are likely on the right track. The best relationships have their roots in strong friendship, so Mr. Right is going to be a good friend, a respectful friend, but he’s also going to make your heart beat a little faster and he’s going to be proud to introduce you to his family and friends. He’s going to want to include you in his activities, even the ones you aren’t certain about. Imagine, he loves to go water-skiing, but you’ve never done it. He’s going to want you to come along, even if it’s just to ride in the boat because he wants to share his joy in what he does with you.
Mr. Right is going to be happy to spend money on you – a lot or a little – it won’t matter because he expresses his thoughtfulness in wanting to see you smile. When you’re hurt or upset, it’s very natural for him to want to fix your problems. Men are inherently fixers, if someone or something is hurting you – they want to make it better even when all they can do is listen to you vent, they want to do what they can to fix it.
If you’re still on the same page, then you’re very likely with Mr. Right – because you’re Mr. Right is going to embody most of these qualities, especially the ones with regard to respect and caring. Finally, the last and most important judge is your own heart – if your stomach tightens and you know deep down, this is the one and he fulfills the rest of these qualities – then you’ve found Mr. Right.