In a previous article Courtney discussed the natural instinct that humans have to have crushes. Being physically attracted to other people is all a part of our human characteristics.
Upon meeting or seeing someone new, people can become fixated or attracted to beautiful people within the first half of a second of seeing them. It is natural to want to look or even stare at people that we find to be attractive.
Research has shown that our eyes automatically give attention to those of the opposite sex. The attention lasts depending on how attractive we feel that the person is.
Even those romantically involved with others can find someone else attractive. There is no shame in looking at other people. Noticing another person of the opposite sex is not wrong. What happens after the look is what can lead to mistrust and relationship issues.
It is very impolite to drool or make suggestive comments about what you saw. However noting to your mate that you think another person has nice looks may possibly be a healthy part of a relationship.
Admitting that you find someone else attractive takes some of the guilt and forbidden shame out of looking.
Some couples actually make a list of people that they find attractive. This list is a list that they create to share with their mate. The list includes those people that they find attractive and fantasize about. The lists are usually compiled of famous people. Adding people that you know or that live near you is usually not a good idea.
While I am not opposed to my husband looking at an attractive woman on the beach, I am not sure that I would like for him to create a list of people that he likes to fantasize about in his dreams. This information I had just rather not think about him doing.
How to Share your Mate’s Interest