As I wrote about over in Pets, my mom’s battle with cancer and dementia ended last Thursday when she passed away peacefully in her sleep.
I hate that this is my first blog back after my long absence from the Marriage Blog. I have some happier, snappier articles planned for the future, but given the circumstances this one seems most fitting. After all, regular readers know I was at a very low point because of all of this. So low in fact I thought I was facing a marriage crisis.
The Crisis Defined
But it turned out to be more a crisis of faith in my marriage rather than an actual marriage crisis. What’s the difference? Nothing was actually “wrong” with my marriage. All woes were repairable. That’s a marriage crisis, when the problems seem insurmountable.
No, what I had was a crisis of faith. I doubted Wayne’s love. I doubted his devotion to our marriage. My faith in his dedication to us had wavered.
Epiphany
But then came The Near Miss, the day I was confronted with the real possibility that at any moment he could be snatched from my life, and I woke up. And then came four more important days. Days when I realized Wayne’s love for me was not only intact, but ran deep and true.
Wednesday, June 11
This was D-Day, as in Diagnosis Day, Despair Day, Disaster Day…it was not a very good day.
Wayne went with my mom and I to the oncologist appointment. Because we had to get a CT scan before the actual meeting with the doctor and it took too long, however, Wayne wasn’t able to stay for the meeting. He had to get to work.
But he was there to help, and it was nice not to be alone for part of the experience. He felt awful when we called an hour later to say the drug had not worked, we’d been referred to hospice, and they gave my mom at best a month. He never anticipated that news would come so fast. He zoomed home from work to be with us. That brought more comfort than I can convey with words.
There’s more to this story, which will be both continued and concluded in Part 2…
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