Yesterday we looked at some ideas for what to do if married to an unbelieving spouse. Some others to consider implementing are:
Be careful in what you share with your partner and how.
Be careful in what you share with your partner and how. Yes, I think you should share your prayers and praise points with your spouse but, and it is a big but, don’t overwhelm them so they feel that is all you ever talk about. Sometimes Christians desirous of seeing someone they love come to faith have a tendency to jump in and want to turn every conversation into a gospel opportunity. Often this can do more harm than good. It turns the other person off and gets their back up. It is far better to be sensitive. Pray and then wait for the Holy Spirit’s guidance about when and what to share. It is harder sometimes to keep quiet. I have been in this situation, not with Mick but another family member. It was a hard lesson to learn to keep quiet and not blunder in. But in the end it was a more effective way forward and didn’t damage the relationship in the process.
Discover the Problem Areas
If your spouse is set against your faith try and find out what it is that is the big issue for them. Is it materialism, fear of what they might have to give up, other religions or some other issue? Once you know what the problem areas are you may be able to work around it more effectively and also target your prayers specifically.
A group that might be helpful is www.wivessupport.org. It is for women with unbelieving husbands. There you will find testimonies from others of their experience, suggested areas for prayer and other helpful information. At the very least it will help you will feel you are not alone.
Join me next time for more thoughts about living with an unbelieving spouse.
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