Not everyone is lucky enough to have married into the perfect family. Some people are not even lucky enough to have married into a decent family. However, once married the family is yours too.
For some couples, the holidays can be very stressful. Not due to last minute shopping or picking out the perfect gift but due to holiday meals with the in-laws.
In my opinion, in-laws are much harder for women than for men. Women tend to take things more personally and strive to please their in laws more than men do. Most men are what they are take it or leave it. However, women are more conscious about the thoughts of others.
Mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws are especially prone to having clashes. It can be even harder if your husband compares you to his mother. You may feel that she never thinks that you are good enough for her son or that you add up to what she feels you should be.
Before attending those difficult holiday meals with the in-laws, make a deal with yourself that you will let things slide off and go un-nerved this year. In most cases, the comments are nothing personal. So she thinks that your turkey is a little dry or that your children are eating too many sweets. It is likely that these comments would flow no matter who her son married.
For the entire family’s sake, it is best to make the best of your time together. Try complimenting something of hers and asking for her advice on an issue. Feeling that she is needed always makes a mother feel good.
Remember that this is the holiday season and that many out there are without any family to share it with. Be thankful for your family no matter how obnoxious they may be.
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