Some of us have already started our holiday shopping, and some of us have not. If you have been hitting the stores lately you may have noticed that they are busier than usual. They will get busier and busier as the season progresses. As we head out to the stores to spend our hard earned money, it is wise to keep things in perspective so that we can avoid holiday shopping stress for ourselves and also avoid causing more stress for others. In a season of giving, practicing good manners during holiday shopping is a way that we can spend nothing (except what we pay for our purchases) while giving ourselves and others the gifts of respect and kindness.
Before you shop, take a little time to relax and center yourself. Have a snack, take a nap, or do whatever gets you feeling happy. Take a few deep breaths and acknowledge that shopping at this time of year can be frustrating. Know that it could take time to find a parking spot, items that you plan to buy could be in short supply, and you may have to wait in line. Also, make sure to bring everything that you and others shopping with you may need – water, snacks, toys, books, diapers, and the like. Remind yourself that if you are taking a child or children with you, they may pick up on your stress or that of others and you may need to take time out to help them remain calm and happy. Going into your shopping trip with your mind in a good place will help you to remain calm throughout your excursion.
When you are looking for a parking spot, please do not be that person who follows the parent with a young child and a full shopping cart to their car and waits with an annoyed expression and the turn signal on as the parent hurries to load the child and the items into the car and return the cart. We know that you are there, and do not appreciate the added stress of being pressured to hurry up and get out of that parking spot so that you can have it. Also please do not get angry if you spy a spot opening up and by the time you get there, someone else is already waiting for it. They got there first and there will be others, one of which you will get to before someone else.
Once you are in the store, say “please”, “thank you”, “you’re welcome”, and any other kind words that you can think of. Treat other shoppers and store staff with respect, and speak kindly to the proper people when you encounter a problem such as an item out of stock. A positive attitude and problem solving mind set will help them feel at ease and help the two of you to find a solution to the issue. As you wait in line, put your cell phone away and fully engage with the clerk when it is your turn. Be sure to smile and thank them – you may be one of only a handful of people who do so on that day. It all makes sense if you think about it – this is a season of giving, and when you do right by others you give not only to them but you also give inner peace to yourself. Happy shopping!
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