Yesterday I gave my husband a quiz. Being the sweetie he is, he filled it out and then I gave him the results of mine. It was a test based on the Five Love Languages.
It is an interesting exercise to see what is most important to you in the way of expressing and receiving love. Why not try it and also give a copy to your spouse to fill out? It takes less than a minute.
Did it tell us anything we didn’t already know? I’m not sure it did. It did show up one thing that struck both of us. We both thought in the quiz we did, an inordinate emphasis on gifts. It was the area in both of our answers that was considerably less important to us that the others.
Apart from that, ours were reasonably similar in that quality time and acts of service were both up the top. Touch also scored high in mine while his was words of affirmation then touch. Mine showed the reverse.
Once you know what your spouse’s love language is, it is easier to make sure that you then find ways to show them you love them in a way that they recognize, appreciate and understand.
Another couple I know was similar to yesterday’s couple. She didn’t put her husband down and criticize but she wasn’t as quick to tell him he looked hot or that she loved him as he was to tell her. It turns out he was a person who needed to be told more often.
Interestingly, in the three cases I know of the man has been the one who has needed words of affirmation more and the women have tended to be more into acts of service. You could be tempted to think that was a gender difference. But Mick’s score on acts of service was much the same as mine and second highest, so I think it’s more a personality difference than gender based. Of course it could also have a lot to do with the way we were brought up. What do others think?
Have you ever tried such a quiz? Would your spouse be happy to complete such a quiz? It might give you a better understanding of each other. I’d love to hear how you get on.
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