That’s the question for all of you. Take a moment and think about it. How important is conversation in your marriage? Conversation includes any time the two of you talk and share more than three exchanges that go beyond: hey, how ya doing?
Chances are your spouse and you have conversations all the time; it’s rare for any of us to want to spend time with anyone we can’t have a conversation with. So it stands to reason that we wouldn’t marry someone we can’t have a conversation with. It’s not surprising then that when you and your spouse aren’t talking anymore or have nothing to say to each other that it’s a sign that your marriage might be in trouble.
Conversation is Important
Conversation is important for more than the obvious reasons. Conversation is how we communicate on multiple levels. There is more to it than just the words we exchange, but also the non-verbal signals, the smiles, the ways our eyes meet, his hand brushing your or your hand brushing his.
It’s vital when you and your spouse are talking that you both contribute to the conversation. It’s not a conversation when all you do is sit and listen while they talk or you talk and they listen. Don’t get me wrong, listening is important, but if you are not equal contributors then it may seem stilted or worse – boring.
I have my own reasons for why I like having conversations with my husband:
- I like him – I like how he thinks and when he talks, he shares the way he thinks when he talks
- I love the liveliness of our conversations and how they can bounce from the serious to the humorous and back again
- I enjoy the methods we engage in to solve problems; we think things through in different manners and no matter which of us is toughing it out – the other can usually see through to the other side
- He’s funny – granted I don’t always appreciate the sense of humor, but I do love that he can make me laugh, even when I want to cry
- He’s fun, I may not say it to him often enough and I need to tell him more often, but he’s fun. We have fun when we’re grocery shopping, we have fun cleaning the house and more
Conversation is vital to a relationship and a marriage. What do you like about conversations with your spouse?
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