How long since you complimented your spouse? No, this is not a rhetorical question. I’d really like to hear your answer. Plus, it might be good for you to think about it. Can you even remember the last time you complimented your spouse. Mine was last night just before we went to sleep when I said to my husband. ’I’m glad I’m married to you.’
When was the last time your spouse complimented you? Sadly, compliments according the recent report appear to be one of the first things to disappear.
In the first throes of love a person can expect an average of three compliments a week. This falls to about one a week if you’re lucky at around that l three year mark. What is even more alarming is that the longer couple is in a relationship the worse it gets. Out of the 2000 surveyed three out of ten who had been in a relationship for five years or more could not remember receiving any compliments from their partners. What a sad state of affairs that is.
We’re always being told children thrive on love and how important praise and encouragement are. But it is no different for adults. All of us like feel we are appreciated and that the things we do are appreciated. We like to feel that somebody actually sees us and recognizes our worth. And it’s nice to be told that. We shouldn’t just take each other for granted so much, we don’t think to tell our marriage partner how great they are.
Earlier in the evening I’d told Mick I’d rather stay home with him than what I used to do on Thursday evenings, which was dash off to choir. That lets him know he is more important to me than anything. I like the fact that after a night of having people over for bible study the night before we can just settle down and relax together, just the two of us.
It’s not hard to find things to compliment your spouse for if you think about it. It just requires a bit of thought. Join me next time for some ideas.
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